What is Counselling?
Counselling provides you with an opportunity to explore yourself and your presenting issues in a safe, non-judgemental and confidential way. The process can foster growth and lead to positive changes in your life. Common to the beliefs of many it is not about advice-giving and is typically a shorter-term intervention.
The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) (England and Wales) recommends counselling for depression.
Psychotherapy focuses on you gaining deep insight into the problems you face. It explores your thoughts, feelings and the significant events in your life, observing how they might be affecting the present. Psychotherapy aims to help you develop or find suitable ways of coping and is usually a longer-term intervention.
What can I talk about?
Anything and everything. You decide which issues concerning your childhood and/or adulthood you want to explore. There are no topics ‘off-limits’ and you are encouraged to talk freely about whatever is on your mind.
“But you can’t tell me anything I don’t already know!”
Whilst that’s completely true (therapists aren’t the expert in your life, you are!) we have years of training so that we can listen out for any emerging themes, patterns, and psychological defence mechanisms which may be significantly impacting our lives and relationships.
Often when we’re in something it can be hard to see the woods for the trees. Therapy helps us helicopter above the trees and give us a clearer line of sight.
Are your needs being met?
We are all born knowing what our needs are. As babies we indicate to others what we want – food, warmth, a cuddle – but as we grow that inner guidance can get muffled. We learn to keep our feelings private in case we are judged or rejected and we feel selfish for putting ourselves first.
We run around trying to live up to everyone else’s expectations! We feel tangled up, burned out, confused, frustrated, conflicted, anxious, depressed, guilty, and maybe even resort to self-medicating ourselves just to switch off.
How can therapy help?
Through the process of therapy, you can learn to really listen to your needs and wants, separate out any negative or unhelpful ideas keeping you from your goals, and begin the process of real self-acceptance. It’s not always an easy or linear process but the results are incredibly rewarding and potentially life-changing.
“I’m not sure what my problem is, I just know I don’t feel OK.”
Don’t worry, you’re not alone – many people aren’t clear in the beginning and discovering where the issues lie is a natural part of the process.
If you would like to understand your feelings a little better you can always visit the NHS mood assessment.
How long do sessions last?
Sessions last for 50-mins and held weekly. It is politely requested that you provide at least 24-hours notice if you wish to cancel or rearrange a session otherwise you will be charged in full.
Everything discussed during our sessions will remain completely confidential and not shared with anyone else. Exceptions to this rule will be outlined in our initial consultation so you are clear on the boundaries. In accordance with BACP ethical standards I receive monthly clinical supervision however any cases discussed are totally anonymised.
General Data Protection Regulation (changes from the Data Protection Act 1998)
The General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) requires that you understand the nature of the data I collect about you. I have produced a summary document which you will be required to sign and return if we choose to work together.
You can find and download the document here GDPR Statement.